8 Green Flags and How To Know If You Are in a Healthy Relationship

As a mediator and collaborative divorce practitioner, I’ve unfortunately seen more than my fair share of unhealthy relationships. Perhaps that’s why it always mystifies me that relationship advice more often focuses on negatives like spotting the red flags when simply the absence of them doesn’t necessarily mean you’ve found Mr./Ms. Right. So instead, let’s focus on positives like how to know if you are in a healthy Read More

Grey Divorce: What It Is and 5 Tips to Navigate It 

It’s a common, albeit sad, statistic that roughly half of all marriages end in divorce. But what’s surprising is that while the divorce rate has gone down or risen only slightly among younger age groups, for adults ages 50 and older it has nearly doubled in the past 25 years according to Pew Research Center. Here’s what you should know about “grey divorce” and how to navigate it. The Details on Grey Divorce A grey Read More

Divorcing a Narcissist or No? Learn How Uncommon this Common Label Really Is.

The narcissist label is commonly used these days when relationships begin to unravel. But, is your ex a true narcissist or just a run of the mill jerk? What you may not realize is that narcissism is actually a personality disorder. However, according to the Cleveland Clinic it’s pretty uncommon – up to only 5% of people have narcissistic personality disorder (NPD). Here are signs to watch for and tips on how to Read More

10 Things to Never Text Your Ex

It can all too easily happen. You’re lonely, you’re bored, you’ve drunk too much or maybe you just miss that ‘in love’ feeling so you impulsively do it: you text your ex. Trouble is; once it’s sent you can’t take it back, no matter how much you might want to. But aside from embarrassment, if you’re in the middle of a divorce those texts could have real consequences. Here are the types of texts you should avoid and Read More

Book Recommendation Roundup During and After Divorce

National Read a Book Day was this month, and while we love any day that encourages reading, we thought, “Why stop there?” especially when reading is so helpful as you learn, grow, heal and find inspiration during and after divorce. In fact, just the act of reading itself can relieve stress! So, we’re compiling all our book recommendations into one big list so you have plenty of material to choose from any day of the Read More

Dealing with Divorce: Court-Ordered versus Private Mediation

Divorce is unchartered waters for most people. But aside from the emotional complexity, the process itself can be just as challenging. What are the steps? What are the options? Does it have to involve lawyers and court appearances? In fact, often one of the most confusing aspects for soon-to-be exes is the role of mediation in the divorce process. Here’s what you need to know about court-ordered versus private Read More

5 Ways to Cope with School Holidays Post-Divorce

School holidays can be stressful even in the best of circumstances, from taking time off work to entertaining the kids to orchestrating how you’ll get together with all your family and friends; there’s so much to plan. But the thought of all the added stress sure to come with navigating school holidays post-divorce may make you want to skip them altogether. First, there’s the emotion you and the kids are likely to Read More

5 Tips to Resolve Disputes with a Narcissist (from a Certified Divorce Specialist)

Regardless of whether your ex has actually been diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) or exhibits similar traits, you know how easily even everyday disagreements can escalate and how futile your attempts at rational discussion can seem. So, when it comes to complex issues such as divorce, child custody, child support or spousal support you may wonder if there is any hope for a mutually agreeable Read More

4 Mental Health Tips During Divorce

World Mental Health Day is coming up and we know there’s almost nothing that takes more of a toll on mental health than a divorce. In fact, according to the Holmes and Rahe Stress Scale, a list of 43 stressful life events, divorce comes only second to the death of a spouse or child. Along with stress also comes a higher risk of depression and anxiety among those going through a divorce versus the general population. Read More

How Mediation Helps with Modification of Court Orders

Your divorce may be final but as you likely know all too well, life is fluid. Circumstances change and sometimes that means court orders issued during your divorce may need to be modified. If you’re still shell shocked from a hard-fought litigation battle to settle your divorce, know that with modification of court orders you don’t have to go down the same path. See how mediation can help make the process easier. Read More